Friday, January 20, 2012

Are YOU What is Holding You Back?

Welcome! If you are visiting from Michael Hyatt's blog today, Thank You! I hope you will consider subscribing to my blog, or coming back to visit on a regular basis.  
When I read that Michael Hyatt accepted guest posts on his blog, I thought, "Maybe I should submit something." Almost immediately however, came the next thought, "Why would he publish anything written by you?" However, I've come to recognize that second voice for the liar that it is.

Over the past year, I've come to realize that the main thing holding me back was me.  I've come to recognize the voices in my head, and identify them for who or what they are. No, I'm not schizophrenic. I'm talking about the running dialog in my head.  Maybe you have it too. Learning to recognize the voices can help you stop holding yourself back.

1. The Voice of Lies. Whether you call it an overactive conscience, the pessimist in you, or even the devil, the liar is always there to tell you that you can't, you'll fail, and you're not good enough. I've learned that if I respond to the liar with reality, the lies go away. This takes a lot of practice, especially if you've been listening to the lies for a long period of time.

2. The Voice of Reality.  When the Liar said, "Why would Michael Hyatt publish you?" The Voice of Reality could honestly respond, "I'm a regular reader of his blog, I think I understand what he's looking for, and because he is the father of 5 daughters I believe he will appreciate my viewpoint from the home front."  The Voice of Reality even whispered, with more hope than reality, "You are a good writer." The Voice of Reality is you, the real you who understands your capabilities. It honestly states your abilities with neither ego nor self deprecation.

3. The Voice of Truth. Whether you call this one your intuition, or (as I believe) the Holy Spirit, the Voice of Truth is different than the Voice of Reality.  Reality is from our own perspective, while Truth is bigger than reality. Max Lucado illustrates this point in his story of The Woodcutter's Wisdom. We can't always recognize the bigger picture. But the Voice of Truth directs us. When the Voice of Truth warns us not to do something, it is not because we are not worthy. It is often because what we are doing is not worthy of us. The Voice of Truth spurs us on in wisdom.

What are you stopping yourself from doing by believing the Voice of Lies? What does Reality say? What does Truth say? Keep taking your leaps of faith. Eventually you'll stick the landing.

What steps will you take to stop negative self talk from holding you back?

Chatty Kelly

Thursday, January 19, 2012

Me? A Leader?

Be sure and read the exciting news at the end of this post!
I've never considered myself a leader, which is pretty funny in hindsight. My husband has always said that I end up leading every group I join, which is true. I was president of the church's women's ministry when I was in my mid-20s. I was head of my Junior Woman's Club and Mother's of Preschoolers group, and I led a Bible study for over 10 years. Still I always considered that I was just doing a job that no one else wanted.

The same was true with my writing. Most of those leadership positions came with writing a newsletter article each month. When someone would tell me how much they enjoyed the article, I chalked it up to interesting subject matter. I thought they were just being kind. I never dreamed it could mean that I was a good writer.

So when I saw the Michael Hyatt, Chairman of Thomas Nelson Publishing (which happens to be the world's largest Christian Publisher), accepted guest posts on leadership on his blog, I didn't immediately think I should send something in. A housewife doesn't seem like a leader. But that is exactly why I decided to send something in.  And he accepted it!

On Friday, I will be guest posting at the blog of Michael Hyatt, and his nearly 182,000 subscribers will read my work. Because anyone can be a leader, even a housewife. Even me.

Visit my post on Friday at

Chatty Kelly

Monday, January 16, 2012

My One (2, 3) Word

Chatty Kelly could not come up with just one word.  "My One Word" is an experiment designed to lose the long list of changes and resolutions you want to make for 2012 and instead pick one word.  I couldn't only pick one, but I did narrow it down to three. Here's what I'm thinking about for 2012.

CLOSER - In 2012, I want to become closer to my husband, my children, my family and friends. This means letting my guard down more, becoming more vulnerable. As someone who has been hurt (and haven't we all?) this can be a hard thing to do. But we can't get close to someone with walls around us.  Most importantly I want to become closer to God.  That relationship will improve all the others.
Come near to God and he will come near to you. James 4:8

BETTER - Who doesn't want to be better? For me, I want to be a better wife and mom. I want to be a better writer and speaker. I want to be a better friend, a better student of God's word, and a better child of God. I want to be better.
Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect. Matthew 5:48

FEARLESS - Ironically, this is the one that scares me the most. I am not fearless. It's easy to live a safe life and never take take chances. There is no risk of failure if you don't put yourself out there. But can you call it success if you never try? Failure would be success if I put myself out there, taking the risk, whatever it may. Because I don't have to be perfect.
I sought the Lord, and he answered me; he delivered me from all my fears. Psalm 34:4

What is your One Word this year? 
And what Bible verse can you claim to help you achieve your goal?

Chatty Kelly