Monday, August 27, 2012

Sometimes Being Stuck is a Good Thing

It started off simply enough. We were sitting around the restaurant table, the evening of our first full day of vacation, sharing about our favorite parts of the day. My husband, ever the diplomat, shared 2 things, one about each specific daughter.

"I enjoyed biking with G, and jumping the waves with C." Then as an afterthought he added, "And of course I enjoyed spending time with mom." How my 8 year old responded was the thing, "Well you might as well," she said. "You're stuck with her."

Stuck with me. In an 8 year old's mind we were married, that was it. Stuck together. And you know, that may not be a bad thing.

As a formerly divorced woman, I know that there are some big problems in marriage. But I also know that we sometimes make little problems big. What would happened if we lived our married lives as people who "might as well enjoy it, we're stuck together." What would happened if we quickly forgave the little things and worked hard to fix the big things. Would the big things become smaller if we let them go?

Not all of them. My first marriage contained some "big things,"and I'm glad I'm not stuck there . But the words of an 8 year  old can give all of us some thing to think about. Marriage is hard. But you might as well enjoy it...and stick it out.

Marriage should be honored by all. Hebrews 13:4

Kelly Combs is a Christian wife, mom, writer and speaker. You can learn about Kelly by visiting her website at

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