Monday, March 14, 2011

Tears in Heaven, Eric Clapton

Would you know my name, if I saw you in Heaven?
Would it be the same, if I saw you in Heaven?
Tears in Heaven, Eric Clapton, 1992

It is never easy when a loved one dies, regardless of the situation. My mother-in-law, Mary, died yesterday. (Not to be confused with my sister with the same name.) My mother-in-law was more than ready to go. Her body had betrayed her in the last few years, first sending her to walker, and finally to a wheelchair. She had rheumatoid arthritis.

Last year she said she didn't know why God was making her stay on the earth, she was ready to go home. She and her husband, Joe, had to move to the nursing home. Her independent spirit didn't like her increasingly dependant situation. She'd had a long good life, she loved Jesus and she was ready, at the age of 86.

So, it isn't with sadness that she is now walking on her own two feet into the presence of Jesus. She is filled with joy. I can't help but think of the children's song, "He went walking and leaping and praising God, Walking and leaping and praising God, 'In the name of Jesus Christ of Nazareth rise up and walk.'" Though she was never one seeking attention, I picture her walking and leaping and praising God. And it's a good thought.

But still we are sad. We will miss her. Having never had a loving mother figure of my own, she helped fill that void. She loved me, not because I was John's wife, but because I was Kelly. She encouraged me to be the strong woman I am.

She took in a scared 11 year old boy, who was my husband, and raised and loved him as her own. Her headstone, which she & her husband pre-arranged, is engraved with the words, "Parents of Richard and John." He was their son, regardless of birth.

I know there are no tears in heaven. But excuse me if I shed a few on earth. Still, I know I'll see Mary again and we'll be heaven.

Chatty Kelly


nita said...

Thank you for sharing this personal, wonderful, moving blog. God Bless - Nita

Andrea said...

Praying for your family!

The Patterson 5 said...

What a loving tribute to John's Mom. I know she will be missed but what a glorious reunion you will share with her one day! Much love to your whole family.

Anonymous said...

Very well written!!


BARBIE said...

I am so sorry for your loss. What a beautiful post.

Sonya Lee Thompson said...

What a beautiful post to honor your sweet mother-in-love. I wish I could have met her. Praying for you and your family today my friend.


Thena said...

Beautiful words. Death is never easy but knowing where they are helps.
As i heard a while back at a funeral it's not goodbye, it's see you later.

Loree Huebner said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

How awesome of you to share your personal relationship with us.

Mother-in-laws and daughter-in-laws do not always get along. I didn't get along with mine until she had to move in with us for a time. Funny, we became the best of friends during that six month period and are still very her, I am her daughter.

I believe God had His mighty hand in it. My own mother had passed not too long before she moved in, and I was really in need of a mom at that time.

A multi-dimensional life said...

Oh, Kelly, I'm sorry to hear about what your mother-in-law had to go through. I just lost my father in law also! I understand exactly what you are saying and feeling. I shed a few tears along with you now...but we know that someday, we will all be celebrating with our loved ones...whole again! I'm glad she loved the Lord. She sounds like a beautiful woman!
Love that song!

Susan said...

Praying for you and your family, Kelly! Sounds like she's hearing Jesus say, "Well done, good and faithful servant." Hugs!!