Several bloggie friends have asked me to write about my husband & my relationship. They are intrigued when they learn we have a 24 year age difference. (I am 40). The truth is, our age difference has yet to play a part in our relationship.
We met when I was working as an assistant to a member of the Board of Supervisors for our local government. LeRoy (my hubby) was the Planning Commissioner for the same district, and consequently called the office a lot and we often spoke on the phone (since I was the one who answered it!)
We dated for three years before we got married. My dad was a bit concerned about the age difference, as was one of LeRoy's sons. He has 2 sons, one is 2 years younger than I am, the other is 4 years younger. The youngest accepted me right away, but the older son has never gotten over the fact that his dad married "out of his age group."
We've been married for nearly 13 years (in May). While we've had our share of issues, I can honestly say the age difference has never been one of them. We've had our share of funny moments. When LeRoy hears a golden oldie on the radio and says "Oh, remember this one?" I look him straight in the eye and deadpan "No." Then we both laugh.
One Sunday at church there was an elderly man there sitting with a woman in her 50's or so several rows ahead of us. LeRoy leaned over and whispered "I wonder if that is her husband or her dad." And I whispered back "The people behind us are wondering the same thing about us!"
LeRoy graduated college the year before I was born. He has 5 grandchildren, 1 who is older than our own children. Yet, it isn't an issue in our daily life, although it is sometimes noted by others. One of Gigi's classmates noted that her dad was younger than Gigi's half-brother. On the first day of preschool, Cici's teacher asked LeRoy if he was Cici's grandpa. But we are happy, and that's what matters to us.
We've been together for 16 years. We're just "us." There is no secret or magic to making the age difference work. It just does. I don't know why. But I pray it continues to for years to come. Happy Valentine's Day, LeRoy.